Six-month favorites

Better late then never, amiright?

By far, Lainey’s favorite “toy” so far has been her noggin stik. I’m not even quite sure how I stumbled across this. It was probably one of those silly “how to make your baby smarter” pinterest articles that said to buy this thing called a noggin stik. Say wha? Anyways, we actually got it right around four months but the girl loved it and still does! So much so that it became the magic toy. You know the one. The one you hide when you are somewhere and save for when you really, really, really neeeeeeed them to make it just five more minutes. Yeah, that one. The noggin stik was that for us. So much so that we bought a 20-pack of batteries from Amazon. That is the only drawback to it, I would say. The battery life leaves a lot to be desired but is easy to replace!

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While this wasn’t a favorite, I’m going to put this right here:

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It feels like about (13) years ago that I put a what am I post out with a picture of this. This is a montessori interlocking disc. Great for teething, grasping (gross motor skill), etc. Adam and I are very interested in some of the montessori principles, not all of them, but many. We often discuss how to incorporate them into raising this little human we are responsible for. If any of you fine folks have any knowledge about montessori that you’d like to pass on to us, PLEASE DO!!!

This next favorite is very basic and is still a favorite!

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A mirror! Just an el-cheapo from Walmart and she loves it! Now that she sits or stands most of the time we have moved it and have it anchored up higher on the wall.

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This is how her mirror is currently set up:

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Last but not least! Her ride! This girl can’t get enough walks. She absolutely loves to go on walks. She’ll grab on to the front tray with both fists and won’t let go the entire time.

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…looking back…

Look back with me, would you, to June…

I’d love to write that she is a Daddy’s girl but she isn’t. She’s both a Mama’s and Daddy’s girl. She’s already figured us out and seems to know what she’ll get from each of us. There is something special, though in seeing the love of my life holding our child. It’s easy to fall in love with him all over again. 

He sends silly pics of he and Lainey to me at work often!

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Father’s Day was low-key but special just the same because Adam is a Daddy now! Again, the year of dreams coming true has continued! He loves his days with her. He says he is the happiest now that he ever remembers being in his life. I always taught in Lamaze that Father’s should try to come up with something special that is for just between them and their babe and Adam knew this. He took off with sign language from the very beginning with Lainey. Research has well proven the benefits of signing with infants and toddlers so I think this is amazing but he is doing it for entirely different reasons! During Lainey’s feedings he wears an ear piece and watches videos to learn how to sign. His goal is for the two of them to actually use sign as a second language. I was told (very early on) that if I want to know (someday) what they are talking about in a restaurant I better follow along! It’s hard! I can only handle about one word a day but I’ve got to keep going so I know when they are talking about me when Lainey gets older!

I’ve said it before and I’ll never stop saying it. Lainey and I are the luckiest girls on earth. Adam will never stop loving us, never stop doing, giving, caring…I love being on this journey called parenthood with him.

Lainey received an incredible gift shortly before Father’s Day. From her birth father. When she was born we did not know who he was and therefore had no information regarding her paternal side. He came forward, however wanting Lainey to be able to someday know where she came from if she so desires to know. How wonderful to have this final piece of information for her! We all want to know where we came from. We all want to know our story. We will forever be thankful to her birth parents for her amazing gift of life. There are simply no words. None. We still pinch ourselves most days to be sure this life we are living is real!

Oh! And, if you follow Adam on Instagram…this isn’t “spiderman”-it’s the sign for I love you and he has decided to capture shots like this throughout Lainey’s life to someday give her a book!

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Abdiel Enoc Amaya

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He was just a little boy when we chose him. The pictures he would send us were drawn from crayons and were your typical little kid drawings but over the years we could tell he grew up. His pictures turned to letters, instead and his writing matured. His face lengthened and he got tall. He wrote to tell us he loved soccer and that he wanted to be a doctor someday. He told us this many times. We even got a video from World Vision two years ago of him playing soccer for us and of him thanking us for his Birthday money. He got a new bed. This year he got new clothes. He is sixteen and graduated from high school. We thought/assumed he would continue on in school.

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Last week I missed a call while seeing patients one afternoon. It was World Vision I think this is the ONLY time they have called us. They left a generic message that they had some important information for us regarding our child and that we should be sure to open the letter from them right away that would be arriving in the mail soon. I called the number right back and found out that Abdiel was no longer continuing his education and because of this, could no longer be in World Vision….and therefore, we could no longer sponsor him.

I was heartbroken. I wanted answers because just a few weeks ago in our last letter he still talked about going on in school. They were able to pull up the field report from El Salvador with a (few) more details stating that he either went to be with family to help them or his family moved. Either way, he had to move to an area where World Vision is not yet a part of, which is the reason we can no longer support him. We were very upset as we have a sincere desire in our heart for Abdiel and his family to succeed and to continue to have God in their lives. Furthermore, even if he is no longer in the World Vision “system” we would love to some how stay connected. I realize now that my thoughts that we may be able to be in contact with our sponsored child into his adult-hood were skewed and unrealistic all along. World Vision said we could try to reach out to him one last time and they could attempt to deliver a message to him and recommended we consider doing it through their email system as this would stand the chance to get there quickest. But, by that night, Abdiel wasn’t even in the World Vision system any longer for us to even email. It is amazing that within 24 hours we lost him. At least it feels like that. In a place where I am so very privileged (heck, my daughter is privileged and lacks for nothing!) we literally lost track of a person that holds a special place in our heart and will likely never have contact with him again.

We prayed for Abdiel and decided to write one last letter stating we wished to continue contact somehow and wanted to still support him and his family so that he can continue in school. We are hoping that one of the World Vision workers there in the field may be able to get it to one of his family members who may be able to get it to him…again, we realize this is unlikely.

“Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it”. Proverbs 22:6  We pray for this truth for Abdiel and we know we want to adopt/sponsor another child but are unsure of whether or not we want to go through World Vision or another entity. Does anyone reading this have experience they can share with us to help us make our decision?

And, of course…no blog post would be complete with out a little Lainey love. This girl of ours, I tell you what-we love her more every day:

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refluxin’

I mentioned for-evah ago that Ms. Lainey has reflux. She was initially pluggin’ along like a happy little baby until the end of March when #commencereguritate officially began. She was 9 weeks old and it was awful. Miserable. Many days, we would ALL go through three-four shirts. Burp rags? Nah. We moved up to dish towels and bath towels at times. We began weighing her weekly on our UPS scale and quickly discovered she was falling on the growth chart, which gave Lainey this face:2015-04-22 001

We began doing all the things we should….keeping her upright after feedings, being sure to burp her every 1/2oz, not over-feeding, etc. She had an ultrasound done of her abdomen to rule out pyloric stenosis-thankfully negative. The possibility of MSPI (milk soy protein intolerance) was discussed…..heavily. The question was if we were dealing with reflux vs. MSPI. We always felt it was reflux but question was if it was acid-related reflux or true anatomic type reflux, where the little valve just hadn’t finished tightening up yet. This is the most common type and usually improves by 4-6 months of age. To treat this type the first thing to try is to thicken their milk. The idea is that when thicker, it will hopefully not reflux up as easily. We tried oatmeal in her bottles. (Word to all you wise mama’s out there: always use oatmeal cereral for your babe’s. Not rice. Oatmeal is a whole grain and is healthier for them. Think of it as us eating whole grain vs white bread!). All this did was make all of our shirts crusty and make her constipated. Great fun.

The next thing recommended was to try an antacid in case it was, well….the acid-type of reflux. We started her on Zantac twice per day and she has been on it since. I’d like to say it doesn’t do much but if we miss a dose we do believe that she is more spitty. We do feel it helps.

On to the hot debate of MSPI. This is a hot topic it seems as is all food allergies in kids. Really, the best way to determine if an infant has MSPI is to remove the offending ingredients from their diet. This can be very tough on an exclusively breast-fed baby, especially in our case. Lainey was still exclusively on breast milk. While we have wonderful milk buddies, we cannot know for sure what they eat each day plus as no one person is able to meet all of Lainey’s milk needs. She has many milk buddies. I will never say it would be impossible but it would be very unlikely for us to find enough donors that were not consuming any soy, dairy, casein, whey, etc. Because of this, it was recommended that we try her on a formula for infants with MSPI. We drug our feet like no other until a Sunday night after a miserable weekend. In fact, on the Saturday night before she actually woke up during the night to feed she was so hungry, something she has not done since she was five weeks old. After a long day of all three of us being covered in milk and Lainey seeming like she was starving we gave in. I went to the clinic and grabbed a sample of Alimentum for her to eat and cried the whole way home. It smelled like an ethanol plant while we were mixing it up! It stunk, it looked gross and we really had to work with her to eat it.

We prayed that night and decided that we were going to try to keep moving forward with what we believed was best for her…breast milk. The next four weeks were still rough. Knowing what the recommended weekly weight gain was for her age I was obsessing over the scale. I found myself having to step back and look at the bigger picture just like I tell parents in the clinic to do. Was she thriving? Was she happy? Was she developing on track? Check, check and check. And, she wasn’t falling off the growth chart any further either which helped reassure us as well.

It has been 14 weeks since this all started and while I am not 100% positive, I am pretty sure we are actually back to where she was at eight weeks on the growth chart! It was just like the books tell us…as soon as she hit four months, things started to improve ever so slightly. I think back to the times we almost switched to different formulas and am so glad we kept pushing forward with the breast milk. We are so lucky it worked for us as I know so many littles have no choice but to switch to formula! We are beyond blessed by our awesome milk buddies. I will certainly share more about our breast milk journey someday soon.

Lainey is still on Zantac twice per day and we do still think it makes a difference. Her reflux is still highly positional, especially when she is put in a car seat or her stroller so I know there is still improvement to come (I hope!). I am very thankful for now, though to be able to feed her and love on her over my noon hour without feeling like I need to be wearing a poncho before going back to the clinic!

And, for an even happier ending…

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