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January 22nd, 3pm:
We sat in our room by ourselves with this tiny human in shock! We were giddy like school kids with a new toy! We immediately took the below (blurry) photo and sent out this text to our family (some of which had no idea of what had transpired!): Our daughter, Lainey Noelle was born last night at 8:13 pm. She weighed 8lbs 6oz and was 21″ long.
We knew she had been loved on by the nurse’s but not by a Mama or Daddy so we immediately ripped our shirts off and began skin-to-skin time! She lay like that on us for the next six hours (and most of the time through the night)….leaving our chests only once.
We are pretty old school folks and prior to Lainey only had flip phones….yes, I know…flip phones, can you believe it?! I am sure we were embarrassing for the nieces and nephews to be seen with in public! Oh the horrors! We always said that whenever we have a baby we will upgrade to smart phones so we can take better photos. I mean for pete’s sake, my phone was so old that it couldn’t even receive pictures any more and when I did want to send a picture to someone I could only send it to a single person at a time. One. Person. At. A. Time. Imagine, will you, what that was like announcing Lainey to our family. We both had our early turn of the century flip phones trying to announce the best thing EVER to the world! To be fair, Adam did have his work phone with him which was a smart phone so we pretty much had smoke coming out of all three phones that evening! The shock and awe factor was high in our family to say the least…as you can imagine. Well, as it has been for most of you as well!
As a side note, upgrading to smart phones was one of the first things we did upon discharge….this little gal is going to make us young (and probably old)!
At around 5:45 pm (just shy of a mere 22 hours after her birth), Lainey’s birth mother came into our room and said she was being discharged and wanted to say her final goodbyes. She was teary and held her briefly, kissed her also. Lainey has several “stork bites”-one on the back of her head, one in the center of her forehead and one on each eyelid. Her birth mother handed her back to me and said, “Oh look, she already has two angel kisses from her two sisters” (she was referring to Noelle and Lainey) and she pointed to the birth marks on her eye lids. All I could do was cry. She was so very appreciative of Adam and I. She wouldn’t stop thanking us. Like we were doing her a favor, when the truth was she was giving us the biggest gift someone can give….life. This amazing, strong, beautiful selfless woman chose us. She gave us this gift. I weep even now for her. Thank you Lord for this woman. Lord, be with her always.
My Mother-in-law and I were talking today about a book she is reading about how some people ask why if a woman loves someone, are they able to give them up for adoption? My answer to someone like that is the birth mother has so very much love for their child that they are not “giving them up”, they are giving them a life. This courageous woman gave my daughter life (praise God) and we are going to do everything in our power to give her the world while showing her God’s love!
Shortly after Lainey’s birth mother left the hospital, staff informed us that technically if we got all of the mandatory videos watched we could go home that very night. Say whaaaa? We had nothin’. I mean nothin’. We didn’t even have a laundry basket to put her in as all of our laundry baskets are the tall wicker types. If you remember, earlier in my blog I mentioned all of the baby stuff we had been gifted in the past from friends and family for our future child(ren). Well, after we lost Noelle in 2013 we couldn’t handle it anymore. Having a “baby’s” room full of “baby” stuff was too painful. Even if we kept the door shut we still knew it was there and it hurt. We donated some of it but the majority of it we shipped in wardrobe boxes to my brother and his wife for their little one. I remember boxing it up and feeling angry but that feeling turned to relief when all of the stuff was gone. So, when I say we had nothing….I mean, we had nothing. I had one crocheted blanket from a patient back in Tecumseh that I kept all of these years, but that is it! So, when they mentioned going home, we were like, “ummmm….please don’t make us leave”. Needless, to say…we stayed.
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