Laundry detergent

We made our own. Yes. We. Did. And, it was fun! I got the recipe from a friend who has done so for a long time. Here is her post with the recipe which is probably much better as my post is geared more to the hilarity of the fact that Adam and I even did this. And, that I think we honestly will keep doing so. Just wait, people. You haven’t seen nothin’ yet. We are going to do great things in our future!

First, you may ask…what brought this on? Initially I was thinking of making our own soap. As in bars of soap. Primarily because my own skin is so freaking dry and I have been told at medical conferences that castile soap is the best soap for skin as far as bacteria goes and when I researched that I found that it, indeed is the oldest soap and in its purest form is also very good for dry skin. That, my kind friends is the key: “purest form”. I quickly decided making soap looked too hard. Then looked at Dr. Bronner’s soap (which is castile) and decided it was a bit pricey for as many bars of soap Adam and I go through…yes, yes I know there are only two of us but he takes two showers a day usually and we just go through a lot of soap. While in Lincoln, Adam found some soap at a natural food store and happily came home with his prize but couldn’t keep a grip on it in the shower….again “purest form”. Besides, I think he got glycerin soap. Lo’ and behold I find this for a mere buck.30 at our lil’ grocery:

Now I haven’t had a chance to try it yet because I’m finishing up my current bar so we’ll see. My point is that once my soap making tangent finished I was off on another tangent: laundry detergent.

I guess I still haven’t gotten to the whole point of this. Here it is. Adam and I have been doing a lot of thinking, discussing, reading….while we know we can’t change everything we are exposed to environment-wise, we would like to somewhat control what is within our own four walls. Well, as much as we can anyhow. When we leave the confines of our home each day we are placated with whatever it is they are needing to help the alfalfa and corn fields grow here locally, and much much more. We can never ever stop exposing ourselves from EVERYthing. But we can limit some things. For instance I learned recently that there are a few ingredients in the Mary Kay that I have used for years (and nothing against Mary Kay because they are in almost every other major brand too) that may cause miscarriages and birth defects if used for a prolonged period of time, of which I have for 15 years. So we are a little lost right now, that is all. Therefore we made laundry detergent. Detergent that isn’t even completely natural but it sure as heck is more natural than what we were using! And is way cheaper. In fact is only 4 cents per load!

Recipe-makes 5 gallons (you should be able to buy all four ingredients at your average grocery store unless you live where we do and then you will need to go to two or three places but never fear….you will succeed!).

  • One bar fels naptha soap (this CLEARLY says for laundry on there but you know how sometimes you just wonder about some people? Yeah, well some of those people stock shelves and put it with the body soap so if you can’t find it in the laundry aisle…check with the body soap)
  • One box borax (this will yield you 9 batches of this recipe)
  • One box washing soda (this will yield you 7 batches of this recipe and for peter’s sake do NOT go getting baking soda even though it is made by the same people!)
  • One bottle of plain (this is the key-must be plain-don’t go getting fancy schmancy) Dawn liquid dish soap.

You will also need a 5 gallon bucket with a lid, something long to stir with (hopefully something longer than a kitchen spoon which my stubborn Husband was determined was long enough and therefore used through the entire freaking process), a grater thingy of some sort-we just used an el-cheapo cheese grater and about 20 minutes total. Oh, and for us an old laundry detergent bottle because we don’t want to use the detergent out of the 5 gallon bucket! After we made this we looked on-line and found a zillion other recipes and ways you can alter this so go for it if you want but we love it so far. Alas, our adventure in photos…

Our Supplies Await Us!!!

Once this is grated, mix this in 4 cups of water in a saucepan...NOT boiling water. Must be hot but NOT boiling, otherwise you'll get a few chunks that are hard to break down. Yeah, uh huh...we learned the ol' hard way. You stir in the pan until it is all melted.

 While your fels-naptha is melting in the pan of water fill your 5 gallon bucket up half way with hot water. Dissolve 1 Cup Borax and 1 Cup of the Washing Soda in this. Then add the melted Fels naptha, mix. Then, fill the remaining way with hot water like the picture below but leave some stirring room for in the morning.

You mix everything together EXCEPT for the Dawn and then leave it sit overnight...so this is right before we put the lid on and said "nighty night!"

It coagulates over night. This was totally AWESOME-it was like that goop stuff that you can buy for kids. I'm all about this kind of stuff. Kind of like this fantasy I have where I want to swim in a pool of M&Ms or jell-o. Anyway you stir and stir and stir until this is smooth again.

Mix in 1/4 cup dawn

We could have been done butttt, we want to use our old container so here we are....and it was easy to do.

I love being able to still use the same container! The only thing is that before each load we have to take it out and rotate the container a couple of times to re-mix things and then put it back but that is okay. Otherwise, you would normally use 1/2 cup for a top-loader washer, 1/4 cup for a front-loader. Or for us it is counting to three Mississippi

 

Adam’s bag of crap

Yes, his bag of crap.

Have you heard of Woot.com? Every day there is a daily deal and then sometimes there is a “woot off” whereas when an item sells a new item is placed for sale right away. This website is Adam’s fav, you see. Apparently, unbeknown to me he has been dreaming of and trying to get their infamous bag of crap for years.  What is a bag of crap, you may ask? Here are the crap commandments listed when you go to try to buy a bag of crap (which is very difficult to do because according to Adam….THEY HAVE SOLD OUT EVERY SINGLE TIME I HAVE TRIED TO BUY ONE FOR YEARS!!!!!)

THE HOLY CRAP COMMANDMENTS
I. Thou shalt expect nothing beyond ONE bag of some kind and THREE crappy items.
II. Thou shalt not whine and complain when some people’s crap turns out to be nicer than yours.
III. Thou shalt take a moment to consider whether you might be better off just not buying this crap.

IV. Thou shalt not expect better crap just because things are different this time. Crap is crap.
V. To paraphrase Stephen Stills, shalt thou not get the crap you want, want the crap you get.

So, needless to say when he successfully got through and purchased a bag of crap he was so excited and watched the tracking number until the very day it got here….even knowing that it weighed 4.18lbs, this $8 bag of crap (that includes shipping and handling).

This is what it looks like when you buy it so I was very disappointed when there was actually no bag in the box. At times it is the simple things for me (only at times, though).

What was in his bag of crap? Mostly crap, you might say. The anticipation of getting it was worth it, though. Kind of like anticipating going on vacation and a whole lot cheaper so that is cool. Here is what he got:

  • Two baby bottles (actually they are fancy ones, too)
  • Ear muffs
  • Two flying monkeys (these would be more exciting if we could use them but we probably shouldn’t because we are thinking they may have had something to do with what started our dog’s seizure disorder). Just kidding, although it could be true but it does freak her out so we can’t use them.
  • An eyeclops projector case (anybody know what this or have a use for this?) ha ha
  • Set of two Aqua Globes to water your plants (all I’ve ever heard is they don’t work)….anyone else heard otherwise????

Here is a picture of the actual loot:

Should have had a paper bag in there...I'm just sayin'

Seriously...if anyone is needing an eyeclops projector bag let us know!

Preservatives vs. No Preservatives: WEEK 2

DAY 14

As you can see the good ol’ Sara Lee that is full of preservatives is still a rockin’ (just like that french fry that you’d find between your seats would be too I am certain). Nasty. Well, so is the other too but the fact that the preservatives can fool us into thinking that the other is still fresh and fine to eat is scary to me.

At a friends idea from last week’s update I have emailed the preservative-free company and asked why I couldn’t find an expiration date on their product. Of course they’ll probably say it was right there under our noses.

Handmade?

Well, hand-assembled is more like it. Geesh, just a mere year ago cuties like this could only be found at little boutiques. But no longer. Now you just go to your local craft store and voila! Except for the cute lil’ hat that is. That was made by a patient of mine back in Tecumseh. It was the only one I had remaining when I left there and it was always too small for the babies I delivered so was left over and since our great-niece is a preemie it works wonderfully!

I am sending these goodies off and then our hopes are to walk our niece, Adam’s Sister and Mom through some naked baby photos with them. This is only because photographer Uncle Adam isn’t there of course!! When Heather was at our house last summer she and her sister couldn’t get enough of a couple of books we have on our coffee table, one of which is Tracy Raver’s Sleeping Beauties (she is actually a Nebraska photographer).

Teen pregnancy: Close in our hearts

This post has been in my mind/heart for days, weeks and months. Typing it and putting it into words is a different thing. A difficult thing. Where to start-you see? Difficult already!!!

First let me say that we love all of our nieces and nephews as if they were our own children. While there are many, many other reasons we do not have a child of ours yet there IS one thing for sure and it is that we have always had these wonderful children around us that we love so very much and therefore have very rarely felt like we were lacking our own. Bad choices are made, yes. By all of us, including me. Including Adam. Including these children that we love. We and these children all learn by these choices and will hopefully be stronger, more productive because of them.

Now, our story.

MISSISSIPPI is ranked 3rd in the United States for teen pregnancy. In general the states that have the highest teen pregnancy rates are in the southern part of the US. One high school a mere 45 minute drive from where our family in Mississippi lives has a 26% teen pregnancy rate. This school has hired an additional 5 social workers to assist in “identifying pregnant teens and showing them resources”. Seems backwards to me. I am glad that they are going to try to identify these girls as early on as possible but shouldn’t they be focusing on preventing pregnancy instead?

What about Teen Mom on MTV? Just last week they announced that  the current teen mom on the show has three friends (all of whom who are teens) are pregnant, too.

Is it an epidemic? Is there more teen pregnancies in certain areas in the south because the education levels are lower? There is less for teens to do, activity-wise? Religion, perhaps? In general, do they think a pregnancy bump is “cute”? Do they want a little baby to dress up and don’t think about the actual hard-core care part of being a teen-parent (or any aged parent for that case!)? Lack of education of contraception use? Poor parenting? OR. Are teens just going to do what they are going to do? I have some of my own thoughts.

In Mississippi where our family is there are very few safe activities available for adolescents to do. There are very few sports. There is not a YMCA. You can play softball but that is pretty much it. There is a movie theater that is a 45 minute drive. That is if you have the money to go. I imagine teens must get bored.  Mississippi is a very poor state. The public schools are not safe. The private schools are very, very expensive. Religion is huge in Mississippi. My own Father-in-law is a preacher, in fact having two churches. Abstinence of course is preached. I imagine contraception is often not discussed between parents and children. As there are not as many sports I imagine there are not sports physicals required each summer like there are where I have always lived. When I do sports physicals on adolescents I take advantage of those few precious moments with that teen and zone in on sex, protection, pregnancy prevention, std’s, etc. In fact, now that I think about it…..I remember them doing that in Whitefish, Montana when I had to have my yearly sports physical in high school.

This is Heather. I remember the day Heather was born, I was outside the hospital room. Adam and I were dating and had just become engaged in fact. She and her little sister spent last July with Adam and I and we spoiled them rotten like you would not believe. We all had a wonderful time. We knew she wanted to be a veterinarian so we had arranged for her to spend a day with our vet in Lincoln before she came to stay with us. I took her shopping for scrubs and here she is before we went to Lincoln. She was so, so excited. This is one of a TON of shots as she twirled around on the deck! When I picked her up later that day she had somehow decided she wanted to be a large animal vet-hmmm….go figure. Before she came to visit with us she didn’t know she could do it but after we talked about how scholarships work and the schools that had vet programs, etc..she was very excited.

We now know that while with us in July she was already far enough along that she was having some morning sickness. In hindsight, Uncle Adam and I recall one specific morning at Worlds of Fun!!! And, it was always soooooo hard to get her to wake up. She was very, very tired....

Because of the cost of private school, Heather home schools.

Meet Alexia Hope. Alexia is Heather’s daughter. 16 days old now, born 5 weeks early. A very high-risk complicated pregnancy. Born via csection due to risk of stroke to Heather. Alexia came home when she was 10 days old and weighed 4lbs 6oz when she came home. We praise God that she is healthy and that Heather is now all better because she wasn’t. She was very sick for the last several months. Children are not meant to have children. Their underdeveloped bodies are simply not ready. Heather had pre-eclampsia, she had supraventricular tachycardia (SVT), intrauterine growth retardation-she was on catergory c cardiac medications just to get far enough in the pregnancy until it was safe enough to deliver Alexia. Heather landed in the ICU after delivery but has done remarkable since. Once again we are blessed.

But. Heather turned 16 a month ago and has a high-risk newborn daughter now. She has completed 9th grade. Adam’s sister and his Mom are helping. This IS how it will work (it takes a village after all). There will be no other way. She is now trying to figure out how to get her GED someday and is thinking about maybe going to a local community college to be an LPN to be able to buy things her baby needs. She already likes to take her baby to her friend’s house so they can see her but Heather doesn’t have a driver’s license so she has to rely on Adam’s sister. Again, a reminder that she is still a child.

Although a child, she is still a mama that is definitely in love with the baby that was in her for all of those months. She puts pictures on her facebook and says I am in love with her. I can tell it is legitimate and she has bonded very well. She did not handle leaving the hospital before Alexia well AT ALL. She only got to go back twice per day to feed her and she was tormented with missing her.

I am saddened in just a quick view of some of her facebook friends when I see a couple of other teens either pregnant or that already have a baby talking to one another about how they can’t wait to see each other’s pregnant tummy, etc.  I think that teen pregnancy is a multi-factorial issue. It starts at home most definitely but social exposure also plays a role. Adolescents need entertainment. We are happy to say that Heather’s little sister will be attending private school next year, thank you Nana and Pawpaw.

We are happy our Heather and Alexia is healthy. A bumpy road may be ahead, yes but ultimately though a beautiful child is here now and in our lives and we have our first great niece….Alexia Hope.